Not Your Sexual Gatekeeper, #RapeCulture — #KatieSpeakShow Ep4 09/26/2015

In brief: My conversations with Kate Harding and Dianna E. Anderson highlight how both our inability to communicate about sex and the patriarchal role of woman (read: cis/hetero) as “sexual gatekeeper” fuel rape culture. We imagine another way of framing sex and physical pleasure that both dismantles rape culture and helps create better, healthier, more enjoyable sex lives for people of all genders.

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On today’s show, I did some quick catch up — a health “care” system process update and a thank you to Dave Zirin for quoting me in his Patrick Kane piece this week — letting me off the hook for having to write about it.

I enjoyed my chat with Kate Harding so much that I can’t wait for you to hear it. I loved her book’s unapologetic tone and she’s definitely the same way in person. We talk about “Asking For It,” enthusiastic consent, who makes a “good” victim, and explore the conflation of “innocent until proven guilty” in rape culture for those of us not sitting on juries.

Dianna E. Anderson is one of my favorite people, so we made sure to record an interview before she flew off over the pond to Oxford. This is an excerpt from that interview; when you find yourself enjoying her as much as I do, keep in mind that I’m sure she’ll be making an appearance on a bonus feed when that’s up and running.

Quote of the Show: “There are lots of handwringing pieces on ‘hookup culture’ as if this culture where people are having a lot of consensual sex with not a lot of strings has anything to do with our rape culture.” — Katie Harding

Links to on-air references:

My take…

Dave Zirin’s piece: “The Patrick Kane Case Marks a New Low in the Long History of Rape Accusations Against Athletes” at The Nation

Audre Lorde self-care quote via Know Your IX: “Dealing with Activist Burn-Out and Self-Care”


My review of Kate’s book: “‘Asking for It’: Why We Need to Get Angry About Rape Culture” at RH Reality Check

An excerpt of “Asking For It” via Kate’s Dame column: “How Helpful Are Those Rape Tips?”

Katie Harding: “When a Feminist Trailblazer Turns to Victim-Blaming, It’s Time to Let Go of a Hero” at Cosmopolitan

Review of Dianna’s book by Sarah Moon: “‘Damaged Goods’ Has Something For Everyone”

The article Dianna references: “Purity Culture as Rape Culture: Why the Theological Is Political” at RH Reality Check

The Guardian interview: “Dianna E Anderson: ‘The worst trolls claim to be Christian’”

Follow my guests…

Katie Harding — Twitter & website

Dianna E. Anderson — Twitter & Website

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